Before You Judge or Criticize, Just Listen & Learn Something New (Or Help)!

You know what?  I love learning something new every day and anytime an opportunity arises!  I've been around on the Internet trying to find places where I can find some new facts.  If you know of a place where they publish at least one new fact on a regular basis, please drop me a comment!  

What have I learned in the last few days?  Well, did you know..... 

Abraham Lincoln created the Secret Service... on the day he was assassinated?

A dime has 118 ridges?

The string from string instruments used to be made from animal guts?  (Yuck!  Fortunately, they're made of metal now)

The moon actually have moonquakes?

Rubber bands last longer when refrigerated? 

It's always enthralling to learn something new to enrich your mind and broaden your horizons.  

So why don't we do the same with people?  We just end up doing the opposite to people all the time!  We judge and criticize people and we just put them down, without listening, learning or even helping them.

"You're so lazy and slow!"

"Why do you always have to be so loud?"

"You're too clingy, you're suffocating me!"

"Stop talking so much!"

"You're so dumb! Can't you do anything right?"

"Organize your stuff like this, not like that!"

Sound familiar? Too often, we immediately criticize or judge when others annoy us, without taking a moment to pause and reflect. We're too focused on our own feelings to consider how others feel when their habits irritate us. When people react strongly to our actions or words, we often feel stressed. What emotions do we experience when we engage in annoying habits? We may feel tired, frustrated, stressed, lonely, angry, bothered, or lacking something. Sometimes, we may annoy others by being happy, excited, giddy, or amused.

So what if we're feeling happy or excited so we start running around, yelling, laughing and making a lot of noises?  Maybe we make a few silly giggles.  Suddenly, someone's annoyed about the noises and start yelling at us!  Now we're not happy anymore, are we?  We do not like it when we get snapped at or when someone throw things or slam doors because they're frustrated.  Now at that moment, the person is more concerned about how our actions have affected them instead of understanding why we're happy and sharing the joy we're feeling.  

When we're stressed, lonely, or bothered, we feel tension and may do whatever it takes to relieve it. If we're stressed, we talk fast or too much to be understood or because we're nervous! If we're unhappy, we rearrange furniture, drive too fast, turn the TV up too loud, snap at people, or change routines. If we're sad or lonely or we lack something, we cry, complain, overexaggerate, or cling to someone or something important to us. It is natural to seek stress relief.

Unfortunately, it's also human nature to respond when someone is doing something that annoys us!  Both parties involve fight for survival.  The unhappy or overly happy person "survives" by doing whatever it takes to release stress.  The person annoyed with other people's behavior is also trying to "survive" by protecting themselves from the stress caused by the excessive noise and the fatigue from having to deal with more excitement and mayhem.  It's a real battle between two emotionally polarizing people, just trying to survive for their own sanity!

It has always been my belief that everything happens for a reason and we do things like reacting for a reason.  I do believe we react to things to convey our basic needs and to survive, even if it annoys other people.  It may not even have anything to do with basic needs or survival and we may be doing it without realizing how irritating it is.  We might even make loud noises in the kitchen while cooking and we're trying to relax and watch TV.  The wife's trying to cook dinner for her family and doesn't even realize how noisy she is and how much that annoys her husband, who wants to relax and watch TV after a long day at work.

So why do we do those things that irritate others?  It may be to fulfill our basic needs, release tension, communicate our wants and desires or it may be because we've come from a different culture or family that others may not understand.  In America, people might find it annoying when others slurp their noodles.  In many Asian cultures like in Japan, this habit is accepting!  In America, it is usually acceptable to be just one or two minutes late.  But if you are in some countries like Germany, it is considered rude if you arrive somewhere at 12:02pm instead of 12pm.

For most of us, we don't know the reason for other people's behavior and because it can infuriate us sometimes, we tend to lash out and make the person feel bad, judged, criticized and not understood.  How is this helping anything?  What does this accomplish?  Only bad feelings, the person lashing out doesn't learn anything and the person being judged or criticized isn't being understood or helped.  

If someone is being lazy or moving slowly, find out why.  It could be because they're tired, unwell, unmotivated or have a disability that isn't obvious. So help them find a way to achieve their goals or you can just learn patience. Sometimes, we get frustrated because we just don't know how to help.  So learn how!

I'm always grateful when I find someone who is patient because I know they care more about my needs than their own. I'm a perfectionist and worry that I'm not getting something right so I tend to procrastinate (including my blogs. Oops!) but I persevere, learn something on the way and enjoy what I do. Life is a journey, not a race!

If someone is being slow or behind on a task, don't rush or snap at them.  Ask them if they need help or what you can do to help.  They're probably uncertain of what to do or how to get something done like finding Indonesia on the world map.  Doing a difficult task is often stressful and frustrating and not everyone has the same strengths or ways of thinking.  Don’t stress and never yell at them.  Getting agitated or arguing is a huge time-waster  and your hope for a peaceful rest of the day probably just went out the window and you feel like your whole life is ruined! If you are patient and just focused on getting it done, the other person will feel a huge sense of relief and feel good about themselves and you will, too, because you've learned how to keep your cool.

If someone is frequently changing furniture or items, making it difficult to watch TV or maintain inner peace, find out why. Consider whether they're bored or stressed and find ways to compromise or suggest solutions. Communicate with them to understand their reasons and find ways to help them feel less stressed.

If someone is clinging onto you, find out why. It may be due to loneliness, their need to communicate or maybe they just admire you! If it gets to the point where it's unhealthy, it could be psychological. People often rely on others for love and care or something may be wrong so don't ignore them (unless you're absolutely sure they're trying to cause trouble). Be grateful for their admiration and trust. It's challenging to find loyal people, but make time to listen and talk with them, especially when they're feeling distressed.

Next time you get annoyed with someone, bite your tongue, breathe and slow down. We are conditioned to act instinctively and do something that could hurt others. This leads to regret, pain, mistrust, and losing friendships or relationships. Because we're trying to survive, holding back criticism and judgment is tough. This is why we swiftly react before we need a time-out to de-escalate ourselves before we make things right with the person. Saying hurtful things in anger quickly wounds the victim until they heal, depending on the relationship and how the victim feels about forgiveness.

I do believe the best way to hold back from judgement and criticism is to just check ourselves.  Why did we do it?  Because we're angry, frustrated, afraid, hurt or tired?  Making new habits is so hard to do (believe me, I still struggle with some habits.  Hey, I'm not perfect!) so maybe try training our brains to slow down before reacting?  Make it a routine to slow down other things like walking, cooking or driving?  

I cook breakfast sometimes and it has helped me stay alert and slow down.  When I'm reading, I look up words I'm not familiar with or I forget their meanings.  I do push-up every morning in bed because it's convenient and over with.  I also learn a new fun fact, a new vocabulary word and read a bible verse or chapter.  I do all of those on a regular basis because I've trained my brain to keep doing them so they're habits I do without thinking about them.

I think the same can be said if we can keep training our minds and create a habit to not react so quickly, find a way to love and care for that person (when you care about someone, it's easier to forgive them for their flaws).  It's a lot harder to forgive someone you don't know so we tend to be nicer to our families, friends and long-time acquaintances.  However, we may react quickly to strangers for bumping into us, saying rude things, or driving too slowly, despite not knowing their history or how their day is. It's important to be kind and understanding to avoid causing unnecessary drama.

I defy anyone to tell me that showing contempt for others pays off well when they do something that bothers us.  While it's important to be assertive, it should be done cautiously and without hurting others or destroying their confidence. Show empathy for others, learn from them, and help them improve. Both sides will experience more peace in body and mind, learn something new, and as we spread the message, we become more at ease. No one gets hurts!

Excuse Me But Where's My "Sorry, I'm Busy" Button?

The image above is not real!  There was never a real conversation with the famous filmmaker, Steven Spielberg and the graphic was created at ifaketextmessage.com.

The Rise of Online Communication and What It Means

Filmmaker Steven Spielberg said, "Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we're too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria to the office on the cell phone." 

Sad, but true!  Let's face it.  Social media and the World Wide Web has taken over our lives for years now.  It has even taken over our relationships with people.  I personally blame social media for how people have related to others.  It isn't only what people say on social media or how businesses or organizations have advertised their missions or stated their messages.  Social media has allowed us to communicate in different ways than we did 20 years ago.  

Years ago, people were writing letters and putting them in the mail, kids were passing notes around in class, people actually had real conversations on their landlines or old cell phones that had no Internet or text messaging and children and teenagers were getting together, hanging out somewhere in the neighborhood talking, laughing and even greeting each other with a hug.  Though, there are still a lot of people who still do those but these ways of communicating aren't as popular as they were once social media and text messaging came into our lives.  Why?  Text messaging is just more convenient and quicker for many of us and people love posting what's on their minds on social media and sharing what they find online.

There's just one issue I have with how we communicate on social media and when texting.  The buttons and emojis!  I'll post something interesting and all I see is someone hitting the "Like" button on Facebook.  No comments.  Just a thumb-up icon, or an angry, red face or a laughing face.  I know what most of those emojis mean except for the thumb-up.  When you hit the thumb-up button, it can mean a lot of things.  It could mean you liked it, agreed with it, thought it was interesting or you simply wanted me to know that you saw it or maybe you hit the button out of habit when you scrolled through your newsfeed.  

When I see someone has "liked" the content I posted, I have no idea what the person is thinking about it because all they do is hit the button and move on, without leaving a comment!  If they hit the sad face, red angry face or the laughing face buttons, I get it.  Though I like to see people's thoughts about what's been posted.  Don't get me wrong!  I always appreciate it that someone actually saw it and reacted to it in some way.  

Whoever had the idea of creating such buttons or emojis in the first place clearly understand that we cannot see each other's faces or body languages and we cannot hear their tones in their voices.  So why not just make the emojis and buttons?  Just push the thumb-up button and get it done and over with, right?  Besides, so many of us think all the animals, objects or emoji icons like hearts and kisses are cute and a lot of fun so we take advantage and play around with them a little.  

Just Hit That Button!

Now, after looking at the title of this blog, you're probably wondering, "ok, where is this going?  What's with the question about the "Sorry, I'm Busy" button?"  As I was just saying, we use a lot of buttons of animals and things and press the emojis to express what we're saying or thinking, which is totally fine!  Sometimes, I get the feeling that when we're reading our newsfeeds on Facebook or timelines on Twitter or Instagram, we're just looking through everything really quickly because no one has the time or energy to read everything!  We get up in the morning to read our social media platforms, have a cup of coffee but we have school or work so we can't read everything.  Then we come home in the evening, exhausted.  Again, no one wants to read everything.  We have errands to run, things to do and families to care for.  So we're whipping through the Facebook newsfeed again and we're tapping the buttons they provided us and leaving a limited amount of comments to content that really matter to us!

So many of us like pushing buttons online to express ourselves or to let others know we saw the posts on social media.  But what are you thinking when you do it?  Then again, people might not even react at all and you crave for online attention and complain about not having any "likes" or anything at all.  Maybe they didn't see your posts?  Or were they busy so they just hit a button and did not leave a comment?  Maybe we need a "Sorry, I'm busy" button to tell people they have seen the posts but didn't have time to comment or react.  Why not?  We have a button and emoji for everything else!  

I know most parents must wish they had a way to tell their kids something when their kids come up to them about something.  Those parents are exhausted after working or hearing the kids fighting and yelling about their needs like, "I need a ride to the mall!" or "Mom, Bobby locked me out of my room again!"  Perhaps the parents are trying to take a nap and they keep hearing the kids call them and all they can do is think about that episode from "Family Guy" when Stewie keeps on repeating, "Mom" over and over again!  So maybe the parents need a "Sorry, I'm busy" button to push so the kids get the message.  

Your boss has conference calls all day, emails to respond to, management issues to settle and more people to hire to make his life easier.  You come in his office with a problem with a product that your boss knows you can handle yourself.  He doesn't even have time to let you in the door so he wishes he had a "Sorry, I'm busy" button to push!

Words Are Just Words... Aren't They?

A "Like" button or text messages going unanswered means a lot of things.  But often when I see someone has liked my posts and texts but I see no responses, I wonder if they even read them and they were just too busy to let me know they did or that they appreciated what they saw and didn't think it was that big of a deal to even consider reacting.

Life is so busy for many of us that we find it easier and even fun to hit the "Like" button before reading the next post on our newsfeeds or the next tweet on our timelines.  Many of us may even think nothing more is necessary.  More than a "Like" or any reaction isn't usually necessary and definitely not required.  However, it would be nice and we would connect more to others if we did more than just that like leaving a comment and showing that we actually care about what was said or shared on social media.  I'm sure that before we were connecting online and when we were actually talking face-to-face, talking on the phone, interacting together in the same room offline, we felt more sociable and connected to everyone else physically and emotionally.  

When you're socializing online, you miss out on reading people's facial expressions and body languages, their tones in their voices.  How do you know when someone online is being sarcastic unless you already know them really well?  It can become harder to know when someone is being serious or joking about something and people get easily offended if you say something as a joke and they don't realize it.  That's a pretty good way to sabotage your online relationships because you end up losing their trust and eventually, the entire relationship breaks down if not recovered beforehand.  Having a good relationship with people online works but it takes more effort to ensure it stays that way! 

It isn't unfathomable why people would prefer to communicate online, especially when they're timid about expressing their emotions or they're worried about posting something that might be offensive.  No one wants to hear a loud voice yelling at them or see a real angry face!  That's why we have to try to learn how to resolve conflicts in civilized ways and be more comfortable with showing our emotions.  The problem is, doing it online is more comfortable and easier that way!

Feeling The Spoken Words

Also, being more sociable offline can help us become more empathetic because reading misinformation on social media platforms, like Facebook, is one of the reasons why more people are becoming less empathetic. We also may know that hearing others laughing or seeing smiles is contagious.  Do you usually smile or laugh when you see a smiley emoji or a "LOL" emoji?  Not likely!  Then there's physical contact like hugging and kissing and I think we all know those contacts can make us feel good.  I seriously doubt you'd feel the exact same sensation when you read, "Sending you virtual hugs!" or look at the kissing emojis!  I'm a sensitive person who appreciate intimacy with people I love and care about and while I appreciate others sending me virtual hugs, I prefer a real one!  It's more meaningful to me whenever it is possible.  Our bodies react more and our brains release oxytocin, allowing us to feel good, feel less anxiety and it lifts our moods.

So, while we can't always be together because of busy schedules, long distances, discomfort of manifesting our emotions in person, the desire to be anonymous for whatever reason or even when we had to distant ourselves during the early days of the Covid-19 pandemic, we can do better than just tapping on emojis and clicking the "Like" buttons.  We can take the time to let others know how we feel with real words.  It shows that we care about others and what they say.  If you show that you care, they'll show that they care, too!  

You know the saying, "action speaks louder than words"?  To me, words speak louder than emojis and "Like" buttons!  Words are meaningful when people get together in person to talk and discuss things when we can see each other's faces and hear others' voices.  Unfortunately, many people feel that's an invasive way to interact nowadays and it's so much easier to go virtual so that's how we roll now!  We feel on edge when talking about opposing viewpoints on politics, religions, the economy or even our own feelings about our personal relationships with people.  At the end, we feel like we'll be attacked if someone doesn't agree with us so we might as well not be seen in the same room physically.  We read political news stories online and leave comments at the bottom, complaining about this and that and how we wish our government would fix our problems.  You want something done?  Our politicians do not go around online reading comments so get your local and state's politicians' contact information and directly write to them! 

Closing It Up!

Regardless, I feel it's important to go back to being more civilized, empathetic and diplomatic if we want to be content and peaceful with ourselves and with each other.  Being so hostile to others doesn't gain anything and you'd find a lot of people like that online because they know they're anonymous and safe!  That kind of behavior gets nothing done.  If you're online attacking others, you got nothing productive to contribute to.  

It's fine to hang around your devices pushing buttons and emojis all day.  Seeing those cute little turtles or hearts are fun to find on social media.  It just doesn't get our messages across very well and personally, it leaves me often puzzled as to what you're thinking about what I'm posting.  It's difficult to stand up for what you believe in sometimes but more words with expression and tones than just online hearts and faces does go a long way.  It's important for people to spend time together offline to discuss, share ideas and feelings without constantly spending time on our phones!  It's also important to make time for others, rather than just make time for what we desire.  Psychologically, it helps you and everyone else.  Otherwise, we might as well create buttons and emojis for everything or just say nothing and hit the "Sorry, I'm busy" button!  What will that achieve in our society?  On a funny note, we certainly cannot use emojis for serious businesses like Petra did on "Jane The Virgin" when she gave permission to the hospital to remove her mother from life support!

NOTE:  I wanted to thank everyone who has been reading my blogs.  Your support has been appreciated!  If you enjoyed this one, too, please feel free to share this!

When You See Me

When you see me.... don't quickly assume that I need help.

When you see me.... don't say you're impressed with how strong I am, pushing around all day or comment on how low I am in my chair.

When you see me.... don't feel the need to ask if I am ok.  

When you see me... don't shout.

When you see me.... don't get up close to my face and speak at a very slow speed.

When you see me... see me as a person, who happens to be sitting down and who happens to hear less than many people.  

No matter what you see or what you may have learned about me, I am still a person like you.  I still have feelings, emotions, a beating heart, mind and soul, just like you.  I can still speak words, feel emotions and think thoughts.

I may not be exactly like you but I am still a human being.  We all may have different thoughts, feelings and opinions but it doesn't make us less of a person.  I still live to smile, laugh, think, feel, cry, get angry, eat and drink, play, work and interact with everything and human beings in the world.  

When you see me, you may see a wheelchair.

If you're a doctor, you may see a broken leg.

If you're a teacher, you may see my grades.

If you're some other professional serving the public such as an attorney, counselor or clerk, you may see my needs for your service.

Is that all you see?  Just a wheelchair?  Just a broken leg or clogged arteries that need unclogging?  Just my grades and scores that tell you how smart I am or whether I will graduate?  Just some papers in my hands for filing or payment?

What about who I am as a person?  Do you think about who you see when you see a wheelchair, when you see me trying to hear you, when you see a disease in my body, when you see me enter your classroom or workshop or when you see me come to you for your service?

This isn't just about me. It's not even about people with disabilities.  It's about all people who aren't always treated as human beings.  Doctors walk into an exam room to see you, they ask you medical questions, examine you, run tests then leave out the door.  Teachers walk into the classroom and teach you, grade you and give you homework and tests then go home back to their lives. Store clerks assist you with something, take your payment, bag your items then move onto the next customer.  Lawyers, repairmen, coaches and counselors provide you with their service and move on to the next person.

People who see you with a disability can see you have a wheelchair, a cane, scooter, a speech impediment or the way you walk because you have brain injury or cerebral palsy and all they think about is how you live your life with your disability and wonder if you need help or what they can do to help.  What about that person's personalities?  What about their abilities rather than disabilities?  What about what this person likes to do in their spare time, what they do for a living, what they think about others and everything going on around them?  What about their interests, beliefs or values?  

You see a person walking past you.  Other than what you see, what do you know about them?  What are their moods at the moment?  What are they struggling with these days?  What is making them content today?  What happened to them in the past that made them who they are right now?  

Imagine stepping on a subway in New York City.  Look around you and see all the people sitting and standing.  You see people standing or sitting alone or with their families, friends, significant others and colleagues.  There are a variety of people: young, old, children, babies, maybe a couple of people in wheelchairs, people conversing in Spanish or German, black people, Asian people, white people and people who wear unusual clothing, suits and ties, bright and loud clothing and just plain clothes.  

You see a couple sitting down together across from you.  The woman thinks everything in the relationship is going well but the man is secretly attracted to another woman from work.  Nevertheless, they're still looking at each other and smiling as if they've been in love for years.   On your left just a few feet down standing up is a middle-aged woman holding onto one of the straphangers.  She looks completely healthy but she may be hanging on to keep from collapsing, not only because the subway is moving but because she is tired from a round of chemotherapy she just had to treat her breast cancer.  On your right is a young man, looking out the window and while it looks like he's admiring the sunset over the New York Harbor, his eyes are actually glued on the Statue of Liberty.  You'd think he'd appreciate looking at such a historical but beautiful American sculpture but in reality, he is looking at the statue as he is thinking about a notification he received the day before from an immigration court, informing him that he has been deported back to his country in Israel.  Next to him is a group of teen girls giggling at one of their phones.  It appeared they were looking at some funny photo or text but they were actually excited when a boy in their class asked one of the girls out on a date.  Right behind you has been very quiet for the past 10 minutes then suddenly, a mother and a four-year-old boy steps on after the subway made a stop and the young boy is screaming, kicking and thrashing around.  Other passengers keep looking at him, wondering why the mother hasn't been able to control such a temperamental child but as you overhear the mother, you hear her tell her little boy calmly that she knows he hates subways and they will be at a place that you recognized very soon.  The place they are trying to get to is a therapy center for autistic children.  

When you see everyone around you, all you see is a head and a body wearing clothes.  All you see is a person with a service animal, a wheelchair or you see somebody who chew gum while walking down the street or you see them carrying two bags of who knows what.  When you let someone step in your office or class at work, you just see their reason why they're there.  Who are they?  Can you tell what they're going through just by looking at them? 

If we all try to make the effort and slow down and try to know the people that we meet, we can connect more, make no judgement about others and get along better.  On the internet, whether you're going in a chat room or message board, you don't see their faces.  So everyone's anonymous and that allows everyone in the world to create their own "alter egos."  Therefore, you meet a lot of fake people and people end up not getting along because a lot of people aren't being their true selves.  It's hard to connect when you don't know who you're connecting with.  It's a lot harder to trust them.  People start judging everyone because no one knows who they're really talking to.

I personally prefer people to get to know me for who I am, not what I use to get through life.  I want people to get to know me because that makes me human and when I feel like I'm being treated like a human being, I trust people to treat me with dignity, respect, care, love and like I belong with the rest of the world... even though I may be different.  Heck, everyone is different!

I would even love it if professionals who serve us (doctors, clerks, counselors, teachers etc...) would get to know us so they know our values and needs and so they can serve us better and make us feel like human beings and not just paychecks.  Treating others like humans gain our trust and respect and trust is what professionals like doctors and teachers need from us to serve us better.  Trust is what allows us to connect and if we connect, we become better people.  If you treat me and everyone else like we're humans and not anything else, a lot is gained!

I'm not saying you have to sit down and chat with me all day or ask me a ton of questions!  In fact, I'd prefer that you didn't bombard me with personal questions regarding my disability unless you want to know medically, what it means and how it affects me in the world.  Of course I want you to care that I have a disability.  Just don't make a huge deal out of it!  So instead of asking me if I need help or a push, just ask me what you'd ask a person without a disability like, "how are you?" or 'how is your day going so far?".  Instead of commenting how strong I am or how low I am sitting, just either comment on what a beautiful day it is or how fortunate we are to be able to experience the new things in life.  

Next time you see someone, just make small talk, no matter what you see with your eyes.  Just look past what you're seeing, get to know them, ask them questions and ask how they're doing in general to let them know you care about them as human beings.

When you see me (or others)... look past what your eyes are telling you about how we look, our health, religions, money, goals and just get to know us.  We're all busy or just not interested so many of us don't do that.  It is understandable that people at work are busy and have many people to see and people at home or other places have something important to do.  Just small talk is ok and good enough, even if it's just for a couple of minutes while you're doing something else!  I just want to know that you actually care.  If you care and don't judge, others will care about you too and will connect without judging you and trust you.  They will treat you like you're a real person.  After all, we are all humans!

Welcome!

 

Hi and welcome to my new blogging website!

To tell you the truth, it's my first at blogging. Before I begin to write something, it's hard to get started and know exactly what to say but often once I start, it gets easier. So hopefully, that's the case once I've started this very first blog... just an ordinary introduction to my blogs.

Let me tell you what really brought me here. My desire to put my thoughts into words and written somewhere. I often share with family and friends what I think and what I know on social media and they tell me, "you're a great writer! You express yourself beautifully and you speak wise words!" When I write, I don't do it to show off any writing skills or show off anything at all. I do it because I want to share. I want to express myself and get whatever I'm writing about out of my system. After I'm done, I feel better and get great feedback and I want to share with more people than just the people I already know. I hope that more people read my blogs and are inspired in many different ways.

 

I know you're wondering what in the world I plan to blog about. DIY projects? Advice about life, love, money or your career? My personal experiences as someone in a wheelchair? Politics? Tutorials? Movie and TV reviews? Honestly, I don't have any particular topics I plan to write about. I know so many people want to read blogs and know about one topic such as how to manage money, how they can find love or find the right careers for the or just read opinions about politics, music or movies.

When I write, I do so whenever I'm inspired and when I feel the need or desire to share something in order to get it out in the open and hopefully, inspire something. I've been told that I can educate and I do well in informing people about being in a wheelchair and what that's like. I like to share my knowledge of things such as that among other things, living life the best you and I can, the real struggles that I've experienced, what I think and feel about things in life such as nature, cats (I'm crazy about cats), movies or politics and my family have told me how inspiring my thoughts have been so why not share them with the world? That's the greatest thing about blogging!

 

Right now, America has been in the middle of one crisis after another lately. We're in the middle of a pandemic because of COVID-19 and now, we're in the middle of another crisis where black people are getting targeted and while it's not the first time, it keeps getting worse. This is all the more reason why this is a good time to start blogging. I've had more time at home to think, reflect and write while we wait for the country to go back to the way we were before COVID-19. I believe it's a time to share and inspire with positivity so that from this day forward, we stick together and become better people so generations in the future can help and contribute in great humanity. No one's perfect and this planet will never be perfect, let's be real about that. However, wouldn't it be wonderful if we connected more and became kinder? They say if we're kind, kindness have a way of coming back to you and you start feeling better about yourself!

A way to show kindness is sharing and sharing is caring and that's what this is about. I want people to know that because you have limits (whether you're physically, hearing or blindly challenged) or because you're feeling bad about what's going on around you, it doesn't mean we have to just stick with that! Life have limits but I like to think we can live around them or in my case, roll around them! I have my own personal struggles like anyone else and I hope we can all connect and help out one another. I welcome people to drop a line in the comments at the bottom if you have any thoughts about any blog ideas in the future or just want to talk. 

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